Today we are so excited to share with you the best marriage advice for newlyweds from married couples.

Before we get into our best marriage advice for newlyweds from other married couples, we wanted to let you know the inspiration behind this post. 3 years ago today was the most magical day of our lives together: the day we got married. It was the perfect fairy tale day to mark the end of our dating chapter and start our newlywed chapter. We never anticipated the challenges we would be faced with during this chapter, but we were also not naive to prospect of marriage being a lot of work. To us, marriage is just like anything in life. You get out of it what you put into it and the more intentional you are about it, the better your relationship will be.

We always love learning from others and getting marriage advice from others. At our wedding, we placed large books on each table with the table number written in front. We had the guests at each table leave us marriage advice for newlyweds to read at that corresponding anniversary. We love reading the books each year and for our 3rd anniversary we thought it would be fun to gather marriage tips from a variety of married couples, married from 3 – 48 years, to share with you too.

From high school sweethearts to an arranged marriage, there are lots of different types of couples here. From sleeping in separate bedrooms to playing a game of “Top 5” there’s also a lot of great advice. We hope you take away some great gems to incorporate into your relationship. We certainly did! Let’s dive into the best marriage advice from married couples!

Note: When I asked for contributions, I didn’t realize how many couples would be happy to share marriage advice for married couples! As such, this post is a bit long. I suggest reading a few together each week to really soak in all the advice. You can also save it for later by clicking the “pin” button on any photo or saving to your bookmarks.

The Best Marriage Advice for Newlyweds From Married Couples

Best marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple married 3 years:

Lena & Bassam – Totally Honest Communication & Compromise

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Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 4 years:

Marya – It Doesn’t Have to be Exciting to be Fun

“Find a staple conversation topic that you both enjoy. Tim and I both enjoyed talking about the philosophical things. Like for instance, would you let somebody clone your mind onto a robot so that you can live forever? We noticed that when we talk about things that only one person is interested in it becomes a bit of a drag. For instance I do not enjoy talking about video games and he doesn’t like talking about coworker drama. 

I don’t believe in keeping things exciting. I think if there’s pressure to keep things exciting then there’s going to be a let down. Things are not as exciting as they used to be 4 years ago, but that’s normal and that’s what’s so nice. You can just be comfortable things everyday things while having fun!”

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

We love this! There’s a lot of benefit to keeping things exciting, but at the end of the day, a lot of intimacy can come from comfort.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 5 years:

Chris – Finding Balance

“Find the right balance of ‘space’ to enjoy things individually and ‘togetherness’ to enjoy things together. Over the years your interests and tastes will change, and that’s OK. Finding the right balance means you’re enjoying the things you love and spending enough time with your partner.” {Read Chris’ blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Not every person can be all things to you. Just like how you wouldn’t expect a friend to be able to fit all your needs, your shouldn’t expect your partner to either. It’s okay to do things alone!

Rishabh & Nirali – Identify What You Have in Common

“We had an arranged marriage which means we had a couple of dates over a couple of days in which we decided that we would be fine spending our lives together. A decision most people spend most of their lifetimes mulling over. In our very first meeting we found that we had mostly nothing in common. Never a good sign when you’re shortlisting potential life partners. However we went for a second date because, well, optimism. We’re glad today we did because we discovered the only thing we both had in common, our love for travel, and the rest they say is history.

Our tip for a healthy married life would be to figure out something both the partners enjoy doing together and secondly, staying positive no matter what. We’ve found that a positive outlook towards each other from the get go helps set a really solid foundation for trust going forward. It has worked for us so far in a situation where we started off deciding to get married after a couple of dates, to now travelling across the globe together and enjoying it.” {Read Rishabh and Nirali’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Like so many other things in life, the key to a successful marriage is mindset! Positivity and a positive outlook on life takes you so far!

Kate & Jeremy – Be Each Other’s Biggest Cheerleader

“Respect and celebrate each other. You each likely have individual dreams, as well as dreams you want to accomplish together. The more you are able to be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader, the first person they celebrate their wins with and their biggest source of comfort in times of disappointment, the more you will thrive–both individually and as a couple.” {Read Kate and Jeremy’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Being such other’s cheerleaders is such a big thing! It’s important to know that your life partner has your back!

Kay – Know What’s Important To You

“Communicate openly and honestly (to your spouse and yourself) about what is important to you and what you value. For example, I’ve never liked Valentine’s Day as the idea of receiving chocolates / flowers just because someone decided that’s what you do on that day, seemed horribly insincere to me. By communicating this and not just letting society dictate how (and when) to show “love” to each other, we are able to focus on things that are more important to us. Important because some people really do love Valentine’s Day as a dedicated day to reiterate and show their appreciation to their spouse. To each their own – so communicate well.” {Read Kay’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Communication is one of the biggest things we’ve been working on and what has made the biggest impact on our relationship. Learning to be 100% honest with each other can feel really hard and vulnerable, but we truly believe it’s the most important thing in a healthy relationship. If you implement one piece of feedback from all these ideas of marriage advice for newlyweds, let it be this one!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a woman Married 7 years, widowed 2 years:

Katerina – Discuss The Unpleasant

“TALK about your fears, your past baggage, issues that annoy you, things that you wish for your children. Equally share the “talking time” (this advice is based on team research. Teams in which everyone gets a fair share of air-waves perform better)

Talk about how your partner wants to be buried, what are the key things it should have. My husband died in a motorbike accident. No chances to make a plan ahead. Yes, you know your partner and you have ideas about what he/she would like, but having it on paper gives you some security that you make it “right”. Believe me, you are going to be in an emotional state that having this little thing to hold on, this certainty that you are doing this “right”, is comforting.” {Read Katerina’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Wow, what a tough thing to think about. It’s never easy to think about unpleasant future situations, but having all of these things worked out ahead of time will make that situation a little bit easier. I’ve tortured myself for years over all the things I didn’t ask my mom before she passed away and I will definitely be taking this piece of Marriage advice for newlyweds to heart.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a woman Married 6 years, then 8 years:

Maraya – Deal With It Yourself

“If it bothers you then deal with it yourself. Everyone has different tolerance levels and waiting for the other person to realize you have reached yours will only make you annoyed that they can’t read your mind.” {Read Maraya’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

I love the idea of telling your partner directly exactly what does and doesn’t bother you rather than just stewing over it internally and blowing up later!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 8 years:

Alisha – Deal With Your Finances

“Get on the same page with finances and go over them regularly. My hubby and I make a monthly budget using Every Dollar (free app) and we allot a set amount of money for our joint blow money, think date nights and eating out, as well as individual blow money. This takes the stress and worry off each of us because we know the other person cannot be mad about whatever we bought with our individual blow money. I usually spend mine on things for our house, while my hubs blows his on craft beer.” {Read Alisha’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Finances is something that causes a lot of stress and fighting in most relationships. Getting the on the same page might not be fun initially, but it’ll make such a big difference in your relationship! Check out our guide to budgeting for couples.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 9 years:

Kat – Have a Joint Hobby

“Have hobbies together. Do a sport together, go to the gym together, surf together, knit together, or do interpretive dance together. Whatever you want. Just make sure it’s something you both really enjoy doing. You don’t want one person to feel like they’re “along for the ride” and ultimately resent your time together. But if it’s something you both really like, every time you do your hobby together and get all of those happy feels, you reinforce the bond you share and you get a reminder of how cool your spouse is. It’s way more fun than Facebooking while your spouse watches something on TV you couldn’t care less about. 

Not all of your hobbies have to be shared. Sometimes it’s fun to come home and tell your spouse about the cool things you do on your own. But actually doing fun things together – things you both really enjoy doing – is the secret sauce that makes a happy marriage.” {Read Kat’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Having a shared hobby is such a great way to bond! It can often be the glue that holds you together during tough times.

Rashmi & Chalukya – Be Best Friends

“We were best friends before we got married. We shared laughs, pains, helped each other grow and learn, motivated the other achieve his/her dreams and never judged each other. The best part of being friends is you always have a shoulder to cry on. Now after 9 years of marriage and having a daughter, there have been a lot of changes and responsibilities that have added up. We do fight, but above all still remain to be the best of friends forever.” {Read Rashmi and Chalukya’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Love this one! Bassam is 100% my best friend. I love the part about never judging each other. That’s so important. Being in a long term relationship can lead to a lot of vulnerable situations and knowing that your partner will never judge you helps make being vulnerable and opening up a lot easier.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 10 years:

Melissa & Ronnie –  Laughter and Listening

Melissa: “Always laugh with each other. Yes, of course you should support each other through the hard times. But our relationship is built in sharing joys and that has served us well even in hard times. Especially once we added kids to the mix, we experienced so many ridiculous and challenging moments, but laughing together always changes the tone. Sometimes we laugh at each other’s jokes, we re-tell hilarious stories, compare notes on crazy things the kids did or even watch late-night TV.”

Ronnie: “Listen first, process second, and react last. Remember it is always about the relationship being right, not each individual.”

{Read Melissa and Ronnie’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Laughing together is so important! Humor can lighten any situation. This is definitely an area we need to work on more. 

Jessica – Support Each Other’s Passions

“Continue pursuing your own passions and hobbies alongside the shared ones you have with your spouse, and support them in doing the same. Support each other in living your best lives, as individuals as well as partners, even when that means doing some things separately sometimes. I think you’ll find it brings you much closer, rather than further apart!” {Read Jessica’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

It’s so important for your partner to know that you have their best interest and growth in mind even when it doesn’t directly involve you. Feeling like you have each other’s back is such a great way to feel connected! 

Lisa – Fights vs Disagreements

“Create emotional space for respectful disagreements – and even arguments. It’s normal and healthy to not see eye-to-eye all the time. It’s not ok to fight and to use hurtful, disrespectful words. You need to be each other’s biggest support person and advocate, and you can’t be that when you use belittling and hurtful words that make your partner feel shame.” {Read Maraya’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

LOVE this piece of marriage advice for newlyweds! Learning to argue effectively has been something we’ve really been working on and it’s really helped our relationship grow. There is so much learning that can be had during times of disagreement, so I don’t dread these times anymore. Now we lean into them and learn from them. (Check out challenge #5 from our 6 week relationship challenge which can help with this!)

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 11 years:

Tanya – Listen To Each Other

“Marriage takes work and effort.  Don’t play games with each other, don’t wonder why your partner didn’t do this or that.  Open up the communication and SPEAK about what you need. And LISTEN to your partner’s needs.” {Read Tanya’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Yes, yes, yes. So important to communicate directly and also HEAR your partner rather than get defensive when they communicate with you. 

Jeff – Fight to Solve, Not To Win

“Don’t be afraid to fight. It’s normal; no one agrees all the time.  Just remember you don’t always have to win.  You got married because you love them and they are better than your best friend, so treat each fight like you care and love the person.  They are not your enemy.  Never fight to win, fight to solve a problem or disagreement.  If you win a fight leave it be.  Never remind them how they where wrong it starts the fight over. No matter how mad you get or how long a fight goes, remember to tell the person you’re married to you love them.” {Read Jeff’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Love that several people talked about not being afraid to fight! As long as you go about it with a determination to solve the problem, fighting can strengthen your relationship. Ignoring a problem just causes a divide.

Kirsty and Robert – Remember Why You Are Together

Kirsty: “Consciously remember why you are together. Building a home, working, raising a family can take its toll and our fear is that we will one day look up from parenting and not recognize the person standing next us, or worse, not even like them anymore. We still have date nights when childcare allows, but when it doesn’t, the evenings are still regarded as our special time. We cook together, bathe together, read together and watch TV in bed. Everyday we share our excitement about the upcoming hours when we can celebrate our unity and remember why we chose each other.”

Robert: “Work as a team and never let anything come between you. Be the pillar of strength to one another. Never forget why you fell in love in the first place.”

(Read Kirsty and Robert’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

When the day-t0-day life stressors occur, it can be easy to focus on the things that annoy you about your partner, rather than why you are together. We do a routine every night where we tell each other 3 things we appreciated about that person that day. It helps us tune back into our why of being together.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 12 years:

Suewan and Dan – Pursue Your Own Passions

“It’s important to make time for each other but it’s also important to have time apart. Don’t forget to pursue things you love. For Suewan this means playing netball or catching up with friends. For Dan it would be playing football or listening to music.” {Read Suewan and Dan’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

So important to have time away from each other and nurture other relationships! You have to have a life outside of each other! Check out this post on not losing the me when you become a we.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 13 years:

Deeptha – Respect Each Other

“Every couple is different and goes through a totally unique development process as a pair. The key factor, I feel, is to respect each other and to not take each other for granted. We have been travelling together as a couple for over 13 years now and we are the most in sync when we are out adventuring together. And it all comes down to love and mutual respect.” {Read Deeptha’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

I love that Deeptha mentioned not taking each other for granted! When you live every day together, it can be so easy to stop seeing your partner as you did when you were dating. Always try to remember that we don’t know how long we have on this earth and it’s important to live every day with our loved ones to the fullest.

 

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 14 years:

Michaela – Sleep In Separate Bedrooms

“My husband and I are complete opposites and have very different likes and dislikes.  Early on in our marriage we decided to have separate bedrooms.  People thought we were crazy and would drift apart but it made all the difference and I am convinced it saved our marriage over the years.  We both just needed a space that was our own to express ourselves, plus it added a bit of spice when there was a sleepover!”  {Read Michaela’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

I love this piece of advice for newlyweds because it shows how different things are going to work for different couples. You have to experiment and figure out what works best for your unique twosome and that might be unconventional from what others do!

Emma – Share a Passion

“For me there are two parts to a successful marriage. The first is the foundation: friendship, respect, reliability… and of course love and attraction. My first husband met these criteria. He’s lovely, responsible and fun, but we didn’t stay married because we didn’t have the second part: a common passion.

My second husband is also lovely, responsible and fun – and we both love hiking. We each have other interests, but hiking is something we talk about, plan and do together. A lot. This binds us together very strongly and gets us over any rough patches. So that’s my advice: go beyond the basics and be sure the person you marry shares at least one hobby, dream, something that’s really your thing as a couple. Or, if you’re already married, figure out what your joint thing is – and then do it together!” {Read Emma’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Another one for common interests! Generally, it seems most couples agree that the best marriages are when partners share a common hobby AND have their own hobbies.

Crysta and Justin – Laugh At The Same Jokes

“Our best marriage advice was given to us on our wedding day by Justin’s Nan, now 94 years old. ‘Always laugh at the same jokes.’ If you share interests and humor, your relationship is strengthened each time you laugh together.” {Read Crysta and Justin’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Another one for humor! We love that the couples who shared marriage advice for couples had a lot of the same pieces of advice. Goes to show some common relationship goals to strive towards.

Natalie – Work as a Team

“Work together as a team- there will be trying times throughout your marriage but if you work as a team you’ll get through whatever challenges life throws at you.” {Read Natalie’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Someone once told me, to keep this in mind, it’s US against the problem, rather than the problem making us against each other. That’s always stuck with me and what this advice reminds me of.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 15 years:

Nadia – Don’t Have TOO Much Alone Time

“Don’t spend too much time apart. Having alone time is important, but you have to be careful you don’t over do it. Simply being in the same space means more touching, more loving gazes, more opportunities for connection throughout the day. It’s not about talking. You can be sitting quietly in the same room, each working on separate things, but by the mere fact you are in each other’s energy field- you are connecting.

So many times, one of us has a work engagement that doesn’t involve or require the presence of the other. Yet we still accompany each other just to be by each other’s side. For example, he came with me to a conference he didn’t need to be at and we didn’t talk at all but he made it his role to hold my marketing materials. It was a date. An unconventional date- but still a date because we were out together with no kids and we had a quick lunch together during the conference. Keeping everything in a shared family calendar is a good tool to use.” {Learn about Nadia’s flower essences brand here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Love this advice! With how busy life gets it can be difficult to spend time together, but making it a conscious effort can be huge for a relationship. We also have a shared family calendar and love it!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 16 years:

Kathryn – Choose the Right Person

“This past April we celebrated 16 years of marriage… quite a feat when we started our marriage journey at ages 21 and 24! So many marriages fall by the wayside before they even hit double digits so I know we are really fortunate to have made it this far although we can’t get too complacent! So what is our advice to having lasted this long? Well I have a few…

Firstly I feel it’s super important to choose the right person. Don’t rush into marriage with someone based on lust! It will fall apart! Find someone who you can be friends with for the long haul. Yes physical attraction is important, but having someone to sit with and chat to every night of the rest of your life is far more important!

Secondly discuss the big stuff BEFORE you tie the knot. Pre-marriage counselling is the place to chat about your expectations – and to see if you’re on the same page with regards to life, kids, extended family, careers, travelling, finances etc. Then I think spending a few years together before diving in to having a family is key, better yet if you can do this for a year or so AWAY from both of your families (esp if you are young or have a particularly over-bearing mother-in-law!)

One of the biggest pieces of advice I can share is to set the goal of FOREVER in your mind as you embark on your marriage. Don’t think there is an alternative. That way you’ll be sure to push through the tough times without giving up too easily. Know it’s going to be hard sometimes. This person you adore will also be the person who annoys you the most some days. Choose love, be kind, make sacrifices, keep talking, aim for forever. You can do it!” {Read Kathryn’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Yesss love the idea of setting a goal of “forever”. Knowing that you’re in it for the long haul can positively affect the way you show up to your marriage. There will 100% be tough times, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t get better with hard work.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 17 years:

Shobha – Never Go to Bed Angry

“I would say that the best piece of advice that I have to impart is what my in-laws told us at our wedding – never go to bed angry.  A corollary of that piece of advice is not holding a grudge. You need to move past arguments that have been lost or compromises that have been made and just accept the joint decision. Don’t look back in anger! Let it go!

My husband suggests that you never shout at each other unless the house is on fire. He’s pretty calm and collected so this piece of wisdom works for him. Me, not so much… which goes to show that the strongest marriages allow for differences in opinion.” {Read Shobha’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Aw I love the never shout at each other! We’ve been guilty of getting a little too loud lately and this is important advice to remember to be respectful to each other!

Kenna – Play Top 5

We met Kenna while out at a date night recently and she gave us this piece of advice to share. We are paraphrasing her here: “Make date night happen, even if you’re mad at each other and don’t want to. Even if you’re just sitting next to each other on the balcony drinking coffee, it counts. As you grow a family, you might need to take the kids along and that’s okay too. So that you never become the couple that doesn’t have anything to talk about, play a game we call, Top 5. Ask each other to list your Top 5 favorite vacations you’ve been on, restaurants you’ve been to, etc. You each have to share, but you can’t repeat anything the other person said!”

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

What a fun way to keep conversations fresh! We often struggle with what to talk about and this will really help!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 18 years:

Jenny – Prioritize Adventures

“Best piece of marriage advice: Keep the adventures going, even with kids in the picture. Hubby and I met at uni and after a summer travelling around Malawi, we knew we were firm travel buddies for life. Once kids came along, we knew that we wanted to continue our travelling lifestyle. After a year living in India and exploring much of Asia as a family, we’re now overlanding Africa in a Land Rover and our 2 boys (aged 2 and 4). We’re already planning our travel adventures together for when the boys have left home 😉.” {Read Jenny’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Adventures can provide so much spark to a relationship because they release the same chemicals the brain releases when you’re falling in love! 

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 19 years:

Sandra – Give Each Other Space

“Give each other space. Maintain interests outside the relationship. While doing things together as a couple is important, it’s also important to do things without your partner. Our secret for staying together happily? It’s to enjoy spending time apart. We’ve gone on solo travel adventures, for weeks or even months at a time. It gives the adventurer the chance to feel independent and it gives you both renewed appreciation for the little things you do for each other.” {Read Sandra’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

We often find that when we return together after spending time apart, we feel more in love than ever because we had the chance to miss each other! It also gives us new things to talk about!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 22 years:

Sarah – Get Professional Help

“While I don’t pretend to have all the secrets I can share this big one. Of course, we all know a long marriage will have ups and downs. Things change. People change. Kids come along and change everything. You’ll have good times along with the bad. Thick and thin. You will have very stressful times which make things almost unbearable. Everybody does. When things get really rough – get help. You don’t have to deal with the hard stuff on your own – there are plenty of professionals who can help you.

The most important bit of advice I have for a great marriage is this: get help separately. Go see the same therapist but not together. This way, you can be free to spill all your stresses out, to say anything you want, without hurting your significant other. Often we misplace blame for our problems on those closest to us. By dealing with our own issues, we can ensure that we can emotionally detox in a way that doesn’t do any lasting harm to our most loved one. Then you can both come back to each other with strategies for growing and moving forward on your journey together.” {Read Sarah’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Oh this is good. You often hear advice to get professional help, but rarely does anyone say to do it separately I love this idea and wholeheartedly agree that you have to work on yourself individually to be able to work on your relationship. 

Marriage advice for newlyweds from couples Married 28 years:

Janet – Respect Each Other

“Treat each other with honor and respect. I have been horrified on more than one occasion to hear women speaking on the phone to their husband as if he is an imbecile or a child, or just plain abruptly or rudely. Just because they are your spouse doesn’t mean you can let the courtesies slide!” {Read more marriage tips from Janet}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Yes! We often speak the worst to those who are the closest to us and it’s terrible!

Rachel – Make Deals

“Ever since we were a couple, my husband, Albert, and I have made deals. He’s Dutch, and he wanted to do his master’s degree in the UK but as an American I had no right to work there (We weren’t yet married at that point.). I offered him a deal: if he did his master’s in the US, I would move to wherever he decided to study. He agreed, which was how we ended up living in California.

When the kids were little, we’d make deals about childcare so that we could each take part in activities or events like my book club meetings or his tennis matches. The fact that we each cook three times a week is a result of a deal we made long ago. These are just a few examples. Deal-making permeates our cross-cultural, international relationship. What I like about it is that it’s inherently fair. Neither partner ends up resenting the other because of feeling like we do more or sacrifice more. It’s all part of a deal that we both enter into freely. Much like marriage itself, when you think about it!” {Read more of Rachel’s tips for a successful marriage here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

What a great idea! Such a good way to make compromise easier and to ensure everyone gets what they need and want!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 30 years:

Lori – Make Each Other Laugh

“Any piece of marriage advice from someone who has been married for a while assumes that you’ve already married someone you actually like and enjoy being with. A good friend. I know it may sound trite, but honestly the best advice I could give would be to always remember how to make each other laugh and have fun with each other. A sense of humor is everything. Marriage is a series of ebbs and flows, and if you’ve got both going on, you’re probably on the right track!” {Read Lori’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Another one for humor and friendship! It seems the couple who laughs together stays together!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 32 years:

Megan – Appreciate the Good Times

“There are going to be good times and bad times. Appreciate the good times and work through the bad times to get more good times. Add patience, forgiveness, and appreciation of what you have.” {Read Megan’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

So true. We’ve learned and grown so much from our hard times together. It really helps enhance intimacy if you let it!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 33 years:

Terry and Maura – Travel Together

“Travel together early in your marriage to bond independently of your families. Enjoy your time creating memories together.” {Read Terry and Maura’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

One of our favorite ways to bond! Often scheduling a trip when we’ve gotten into a rut helps do the trick!

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 36 years:

Sherrie – Spend Quality Time

“Make it a priority to spend quality time together. Find something you both enjoy and do it together.  We enjoy traveling so we get a lot of quality time together, plus we get to make a lot of great memories!” {Read Sherrie’s blog here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Love this. Because so often couples spend so much time together, they assume they don’t need it to be quality time. That quality time is so important though. Our favorite way to get quality time is through travel, but we’ve also learned to make every day moments into quality time as well.

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 44 years:

Janie – You Can Never Be Too Kind

“Think of your spouse first.  You can never be too kind. Everyone feels good when they are appreciated, so make your spouse feel good.  Compliment them.  Be grateful that your spouse loves you and wants to be with you. Laugh together everyday.  Remember the good times and the bad, they will both make you laugh. Never stop having fun! Find something you like to do together; for us it is traveling.” {Follow Janie on Instagram here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

You can never be too kind. What a great piece of advice for newlyweds to remember no matter how long you’ve been married! 

Marriage advice for newlyweds from a couple Married 48 years:

John and Starlet – Love Your Partner More Than Yourself

“First, love your spouse more than you love yourself. If you do, you will not selfishly seek your own happiness first, but the happiness of your mate.  If both of you work at it, both of you will both be happy. Second, both have to be able to forgive the mistakes their mates make but also they have to forget them and not continue to bring them up again.” {Follow Starlet on Instagram here}

Our takeaway from this piece of advice on marriage for newlyweds:

Wow. What an amazing piece of advice for newlyweds to end on! If you can choose to act from a place of love toward your partner, more than you love yourself, and you BOTH do that, can you imagine what an amazing relationship it’ll be?

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